The Art of Love.

Do we really know what love really means anymore in a generation where dates aren't necessary for relationships to develop or for us to get inside the opposite sex's pants. Nowadays, standards do not exist and it becomes harder and harder to find something real. 

Men constantly on the prowl like wild animals looking for prey while some women no longer care about self respect. Men constantly looking for the undressed women, with nothing more in mind than sex... because its easy. 

True love, however, isn't easy. Especially in a generation where cheating can be a temptation and is very common due to the technology we have at our fingertips. Desperate men cannot keep it in their pants, they're no longer looking to get to know women with nothing more than good intentions. The end goal being to see what’s under that red dress.

Maybe, its just the way we are now. But the truth is, we as human beings have forgotten how to love. We can't find friends who can truly have our backs no matter the time of day because we constantly want to fit in, we are scared of the thoughts others think of us. 

We get judged by our friends and family on who we hang around, who we love, what we listen to, what we do, what our priorities do and at the end of the day, it appears that we have to become this ideal specimen in order to become anybody. 

Men themselves find pride in how many girls that they've had sex with, hooked up with or how many people they've fucked over. Rather than the quality of the girls that they've done such things with, its just all about the numbers…

I am no saint. I'm far from it. However, after realizing what I was doing, I realized that it was nothing to enjoy.. Its not the same.
Having substance, being more than just something casual should be a priority. Not the numbers that we obsess ourselves over.

Lets put it into perspective here.. What truly is the difference between two people who have "meaningless sex" and a prostitute? 
In today's society, where standards are at its lowest, a prostitute holds themselves higher for the exact same thing, meaningless sex.  The value of sex to that prostitute is determined by the value they charge of what they believe their "meaningless" desensitised sex is worth where as the youth of today value their sex based on what they believe the person they have sex with which is more or less based on looks, possessions or lifestyle. 
So therefore those judgements of an individual says a lot about them and how they value themselves. The prostitute strangely enough, values themselves high enough to charge and any individual who accepts the terms for intercourse, believes that the sex is worth it. Some may choose for pleasure, some may look for company others may even look just to confine in someone else.  
Where as today's society base it on the value of the person, not valuing sex for what it really is, not for what it represents. Its value represents just the pleasure that brings to the individual so what does that say about society if we value pleasure more than we value ourselves?

Respect is key to finding love in our friendships and in our relationships. Its important that we find the right people who share the same views, the same values and the same goals. Because essentially everything we stand for, everything we become shapes our reality. Love in essence should be undying affection for one another, that we care so much about who they are that we want to be part of their journey and that they too should be a part of ours.

Forgetting our values and hanging around people who do not have goals can lead us astray off our path. If you believe you have something in the world to achieve, which really, we all should. We must work tirelessly and endlessly to achieve that and that must be reciprocated in our relationships and friendships with others not just on an individual perspective but also collectively.

You cannot force love, just like loyalty, it must be given and you must not look for it as both should be shown from day one.  The saying goes “If you force it, its probably sh*t” and how right that is.
You cannot force somebody to love you, care for you or be their for you. You only have control over what we as individuals decide to do. Not the actions of others.
When faced with issues that can test everything we are, put your best foot forward, and push through.
Do not give up because friendships or relationships aren’t perfect. I mean, if you were only seeking real substance beforehand than you have no reason to question your position, just push on and work hard never give up.
Always do what’s best for you, know what qualities it is that you need  from the people you are around and just go out and find what it is that you seek.

Don’t look for something shallow, do not look just for looks, possessions and the perks of being with certain individuals but the values of one another and be there and do the best you can possibly do for everyone around you, support them, love them share moments with them and just make dope sh*t with them that could last a long time.

Don’t be consumed in hate, drama and fights it’s not worth it. If we tried to understand what it is that people are trying to do what they’re going through and just listen to what one another say we wouldn’t be part of this bullsh*t where everyone want to secretly kill each other if they ever made it legal.  Like for real, people just have to put their best foot first and stop being so heartless when it comes to everyone else’s dreams or just things they do.

We all need to be the change we want to see in the world and that begins with following our hearts and loving one another.

I think as a male, I hate how the stigma that’s connected to showing affection or that you have feelings. I mean, lets be real, we are all humans, we are all the same, don’t critize somebody for acting out of the norm. Look at Kanye West, Drake, Chris Brown and any other artist who express themselves and their emotions through music especially when it's "hip-hop" related where you have to have diamond chains, diamond everything, be about the sex, drugs, alcohol and just spending your "free time" counting money.. That's not a real reality talking about issues that plague this society and expressing your love for not only people but your passions. That should be respected and should empower everyone to take note that its not about how much money you make but the value of what you're chasing and what your passions are.

That’s what’s wrong with this world love itself is “uncool”, coming home to one girl is “uncool”, getting married at a young age is “uncool” all this bullsh*t about love is uncool.
Nah f*ck that, if I damn well love you or I care for you I don’t care what other people say about what I say. It’s that attitude that we need and we need to sieze moments because the truth is money and possessions do not mean sh*t. It may pay your bills and determine your social status, but the truth is time is all we got.  We shouldn’t spend our time captivated in a world full of negative emotions and feelings along with these situations where we are being suppressed from reaching our true potential.

We should never be putting someone down regardless of what they’ve done wrong to us or the people around us. Forgiveness is key when being hurt by the ones we love and care about, you know? Believe that you can only see the positive in every situation in every relationship and no matter what you go through you’ll understand that every negative situation has been such a blessing. But do not condemn someone simply because you don’t understand them, because they do not fit your ideal profile to fit in your life.

Regardless of ethnicity, color, race, gender etc. we should all look for the positive attributes and look at the differences in a positive light as a way to learn and to better yourself rather than calling them a “freak” or whatever because imagine if you were them…

If you love someone, tell them. Scream it at the top of your lungs.. because while you still live on this earth you must seize every moment you have to show people you care and that you love them simply because time doesn’t last forever, our lives do not last forever. Time does. So if you’re scared, simply because it might ruin your friendship or whatever just imagine if they felt the same and you were both scared not knowing what they might say…

The Art of Love.
Photo courtesy of Riccardo Tisici 

My rendition of the meaning of just being in love in general whether it is to do with passion for certain hobbies or dreams, the unconditional love that we have for family, friends and loved ones is that they mean too much to your life, to your soul, that you could never replace them you could never give up on them. You say to yourself i'll do whatever it takes to have that certain thing/person in your life you would go to the depths of hell and back again in order to succeed. In order, to love. Perhaps love is our biggest weakness but it too can be our biggest strength because we know that the love we have for these people and these passions, we could never see a life without. It drives us to be better, to do better, to succeed, to live. Love is in the eyes, you can never deny that, because look at someones eyes brighten up as they talk about their passion, about their partners, about their families. 

Love is much deeper than we could ever truly comprehend. But know what it's meant to be and give to others for they too need love just like you. When you're in love you just know. But be in love not with just others but with your reflection with your life. Find what drives your inner passion and pursue it like a bull at a red cape. Do not stop, do not question, because our souls know what the matter of our heart truly desires and not our head. Our head, just protects our pride but it doesn't protect our true interests.. Discover those interests and you shall find love.

But perhaps, being in love or loving someone can be scary, as you give them the ultimate power to hurt you.. But unless you’re willing to go in the ring get hit a few times you’ll never find the true beauty of love. Especially in a generation where real love seems to cease to exist. Capture every moment you have to tell someone you appreciate their contribution to your life and just give back to society and give when you can and love everyone and everything wholeheartedly because if we do not change, if we remain a society full of hate.. YOUR CHILD will never live to see the day where happiness and love can exist where war doesn’t exist where racism doesn’t exist where nothing exists but pain and hatred and all people will ever know is two things… You either be strong because you have the passion to follow your dreams.. or to follow a crowd destined for nothing but tyranny and oppression.

If you ever find something or somebody to love go in that ring and fight for them regardless of how many hits you take or how hard it is.. Because love is dying and I for one, don’t want to see a world where love no longer exsists.

They say “The best things in life are free” that means love, passion, dreams, creativity, pride, respect and manners cannot be bought. If you seek you shall find…
Just know that sex sells but its easily purchased in a world of loveless human beings.. so be the change right now and show other people love is the way to a better tomorrow.  That you don’t need to gain something from love in order to be a better society, you just need to understand love and what it means to love others but importantly you must love yourself because we are the reflections of our soul and eventually someone can turn around on our love and destroy us.. But if we truly love ourselves and respect ourselves, we should know that its their loss and that we must continue to love others free from fear of being hurt or being let down.. Love freely love openly love everything.

Whether you love or hate Kanye West just listen to his rant below and really commit yourself to understanding it because this video of Kanye West's performance of Runaway has got a message.. BE CREATIVE, LOVE FREELY AND LOVE OPENLY. 

 

Rant sort of begins around 5.55 but he begins actually talking 8.35. If you're one of those people who just want to get to point. However, I hope you just enjoy his whole performance as well as his message that he provides in his rant.

I could go on forever but I guess for now that’s all… Take this blog as food for thought and hopefully you learned something from it.

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